This was Eve's dilemma. I will reiterate that this is not just a married woman's issue. It affects single women, too. Remember, this was a universal curse. It included all women. Look at how women today are ruled by the desire to get a man, have a man, and keep a man. How many waking moments are spent laboring over this issue with friends or alone? How many women have settled for unhappy relationships merely because they've come to the sad conclusion tht to have some man is better than no man at all? The words of the prophet are being played out in modern-day scenarios the world over.
"In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and proved our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!'" (Isaiah 4:1 NIV).
It is interesting to note that it was not until after the fall that Adam named Eve. Before she was created Adam had named all living things in the garden, yet Eve seemingly remained unnamed. Why? Because God had named her a helpmeet, yet He allowed Adam to call her woman --an accurate description of her being part of man. a name is the definition of who you are. God is very fussy about names. We see throughout Scripture His participation in nameing babies according to His purpose for their lives. Now, after the fall, it was man who gave woman her definition, according to her heart's desire, by re-naming her Eve, which means "mother of all living things." Today women still crave to be "named" by man. Now hear this: You don't have to wait for a man to define who you are. God has already given you a name.
"No longer will they call you Deserted, or name your land Desolate. But you will be called Hephzibah (my delight is in her), and your land Beulah (married).... as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you" (Isaiah 62:4,5 NIV).
Because of God, a woman is a complete woman whether she has a man or not. The lord is a husband to the husbandless. And that's some husband to have! He's One who owns everything you could ever dream of or hoep for. We're talking about having teh wealthiest husband in the world! "For your Maker is your Husband --the Lord Almighty is his name-- the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer" (Isaiah 54:5).
When we lose ourselves as women
and begin forcing ourselves to develop
muscles we're not designed to have, our
internal and relational system suffers.
The Power of Being a Woman by Michelle Mckinney Hammond